Meg has a thing with touching. I on the other hand have no personal bubble boundaries, I think it is a product of growing up in the family that I did. We are touchy people.
I believe that an embrace can change the world, and so does Amma. There is something so fundamental about touch. Babies crave it from the time they come out. They are always wanting to be held and rocked and when you put them down they cry and cry. There is an episode of Grey’s (oh I know it’s not real life, but we can suspend belief for a bit right?) where Alex Karev holds this baby that is on the brink of death, and all of the sudden the baby starts to recover. The power of his touch literally (in the world of make-believe) helped this baby to live. Now, I’m not going to pretend that a hug will make all of the badness go away, but it will make you feel safe and loved. I read an article about Amma on Huffington Post, and it touched me. This woman has devoted her life to hugging people well that and raising money for good causes. I think that that is admirable. Sometimes we are so afraid to touch people even though we long for it. We see someone crying (like me in the gyno’s office poor dude and he kind of awkwardly wrapped his arm around me patted my arm and then left) and we feel almost unsure if comforting them in such a way is “allowed”. I understand the boundary when I was in his office, but oh how I could have used a hug at that moment.
What it all really comes down to is love. Yes I was listening in church on Sunday, when Narcie preached on love, and maybe that is part of my impetus to write this, but so be it. I may not sharpie love on my forehead, but maybe I should on my forearms to remind me to hug and touch people. Sometimes all you need is a hug. Amma knows that, I wish we all did.
“It’s the sense of touch. In any real city, you walk, you know? You brush past people, people bump into you. In L.A., nobody touches you. We’re always behind this metal and glass. I think we miss that touch so much, that we crash into each other, just so we can feel something.” Quote from Crash 2004, if you haven’t seen this movie don’t waste one more min before you rent it.